You’re certain your dad needs help around the house. Items in his fridge expired a year ago. He’s given up trying to change sheets on his bed. He’s only eating fast food or freezer meals. You’ve also noticed he can’t remember important dates and appointments.
While you want to start talking about home care, your sister insists that your dad is fine. She feels he’s reached his 80’s, so he should be able to eat what he finds easiest. If he doesn’t want to wash his sheets, that’s okay. She also feels that forgetting that he has an appointment is nothing to worry about.
The two of you are now arguing over your dad’s care. He’s starting to notice the tension. You need to reach a solution.
Here are a few tips you can use to come up with a solution that makes you both happy.
Talk to Your Dad’s Doctor
Your dad’s doctor is going to have insight into where your dad needs help. If your dad is on medications and often forgets to take them, medication management is a beneficial service. His doctor will also know of medical conditions that may require him to have someone help him with his diet. A doctor’s input should carry more weight than the feelings of you and your sibling.
Seek the Guidance of an Elder Care Specialist
If your dad has dementia, it’s likely that a specialist is involved in his care. Often, a memory care center pairs people with dementia with a social worker or therapist. Talk to the therapist about your dad’s immediate needs and where care needs may go in the future.
Weigh the Pros and Cons
Once you have an idea on the care your dad needs, everyone should create a list of pros and cons. Discuss these together. If a family mediator is needed for neutral input, make sure one is present.
Ask Your Dad What He Thinks
Few aging adults love the idea of having a home care aide coming into their home. Your dad may be reluctant. That’s normal. Get his input. You may have to ask him to give it a trial week or two. Once he’s acclimated to having a caregiver helping out, he’ll look forward to days where senior care professionals come to his home.
Everyone should be involved in the interview process. If there are still siblings who feel bitter, however, it may be better to do the interviews separately. This helps you avoid any squabbles in front of a stranger. Get started now. Call our home care agency to discuss services and prices.
If you or an aging loved one are considering Home Care Services in Newton MA, or anywhere in Eastern Massachusetts, please call the caring staff at CARE Resolutions – (508) 906-5572.
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